Ubi Franklin’s 4th babymama, Sandra Iheuwa, has reacted to Toyin Lawani’s post asking women to stop blocking kids from their dads in an attempt to punish him when their relationship goes sour.
In the post, Toyin Lawani said women can never replace a father in the lives of their kids no matter how much they try, therefore they should stop blocking them from the fatherly love of their dads and Sandra has disagreed.
Sandra reacting to Toyin Lawani’s post stated that sometimes, it is not the women that block the kids from their dads, instead it is some “dead beats” that just don’t want to be in their child’s life, have love for them, see or hold them even at birth and after birth. She insists that when it is noticed that they do not want to participate in the parenting, it’s best he stays away from the child.
SOME WOMEN DO NOT BLOCK KIDS FROM THEIR DAD, SOME MEN JUST DON’T WANT TO BE IN THEIR CHILD’S LIFE OR HAVE LOVE FOR THEM TO EVEN SEE OR HOLD THEM EVEN AT BIRTH AND AFTER BIRTH……IF THE MAN DOESN’T WANT TO BE A PARTICIPATING PARENT IT’S BEST HE STAYS WHERE HE IS AND STAYS AWAY BECAUSE AT TIMES THE KIDS WILL BE BETTER OFF WITHOUT SUCH FATHER…..YOU CAN’T FORCE THEM TO PARENT. #TRUESTORY
Someone commented on Sandra’s post stating that sometimes these “fathers” are not avoiding their kids but the drama of their mothers. Sandra responded;
THE FATHER IS AVOIDING THE CHILD IRRESPECTIVE OF HOW THE MOM BEHAVES THERE ARE OTHER AVENUES OF SEEING OR BEING IN THE CHILD’S LIFE IF THE FATHER DOESN’T WANT TO DEAL WITH THE MOTHER FOR WHATEVER REASON. THERE IS NO EXCUSE WHATSOEVER THE FATHER CAN CALL THE MOTHER CHAT WITH HER ALL DAY BUT NEVER FOR ONCE ASK ABOUT THE CHILD OR SCHEDULE A DAY TO SEE THE CHILD. YOU HAVEN’T DEALT WITH THIS KIND OF MEN BEFORE THEY WILL CREATE EXCUSES UPON EXCUSES FOR NO SEEING THEIR OWN CHILD. IF THE WOMAN WAS DRAMATIC OR WHATEVER WHY THEN RELEASE INSIDE HER AND GET HER PREGNANT? ? IT TAKES 2 TO TANGLE. SOME WOMEN ARE NOT THE PROBLEM HERE. YOU HAVEN’T MET A DEAD BEAT AND YOU DO YOU WILL UNDERSTAND