An angry Nigerian man, Thomas Thomas has called for the reintroduction of Ekpo-Nka-Owo’, the spirit that checks and punishes infidelity in marriage across Annang Ibibio land of Akwa Ibom State.
The man who decried the rate at which some children are being gotten from other men, wanted the society to go back the traditional way of checking infidelity in marriage.
The write up was shared on Facebook by Akwa Ibom group, Sittipe.
EKPO-NKA-OWO: A DEATH PENALTY FOR WOMEN
Do you know that over 40 percent of children born by married women are gotten from men who are not their real husbands? Do you know that married women of nowadays are too promiscuous, loose, and shamelessly addicted to sex? Sincerely speaking, a majority of married women are engaging in extra-marital relationships with pride and impunity. The question is: Why?
Findings show that some married women are greedy and mundane. Some are sexually unsatisfied, hence their resorting to sleeping with men indiscriminately. The most annoying aspect of this is that some of them are even sponsoring their extramarital partners from the money they get from their legitimate husbands. Some of them even sit in the presence of their husbands to send recharge cards to their illegitimate lovers.
I am very bitter, and that is why I am writing down this bitter and unarguable truth. Many women of today have disgraced their husbands with impunity. They don’t mind sleeping around with men in the neighborhood; they don’t mind paying a fortune to their illegitimate partners; they don’t mind abandoning their homes, so far as they get what they want.
Some of them even befriend (or should I say ‘be-sex’) married men. They don’t mind destroying others homes or destroying theirs, with their waywardness. I know one who took her boyfriend’s children to her home for a holiday, and lied to her husband that they are her godchildren. The husband, as innocent as he was, and being a generous person, accommodated the children, and even shopped for them at the end of their stay. With the trickery, the husband never suspected anything whenever the biological father of the children would come around, because his wife had lied about the relationship that existed between her and the man (god-husband and god-wife, perhaps).
I pity husbands who work offshore. I pity husbands whose wives travel far to buy wares for sales. Some even spend weeks in Dubai, Kano, Lagos, etc. Some lie that they have travelled out, when infact, they are actually within proximity of their husbands and families, but with other men. I know of a female lecturer in one of the higher institutions in Nigeria, who gives out her body to her male students.
Some married women be-sex their drivers, house-helps, servants, gardeners, gate-keepers, etc. What a world! Bankers, (especially the ‘executive harlots’ called ‘marketers’, seem to be the most promiscuous. They openly solicit and fall cheaply for their male customers. Though I have mentioned this before, let me emphasize here that housewives who call themselves traders, (especially those who spend nights on the road), are even worse. They often befriend their drivers, or anyone else, and have ready excuses for their husbands. Some pretend to go to Church, while in the actual sense, they are on a mission to sleep with their lovers.
Some even ‘be-sex’ Pastors, and other top members of the ecclesiastical hierarchy. Those who call themselves ‘politicians’ are devils. Their buttocks are their political weapons or political credentials. This set of women sees and uses their buttocks as political weapons to scheme out rivals, and bring political giants to their knees; in utter disregard for their husbands, their matrimonial vows and their homes. It annoys me most to see wives of the rich, including wives of Commissioners, Pastors, Heads of Parastatals, Heads of Institutions, etc, engaging in dirty and illicit affairs. A friend of mine (name withheld) is currently dating the wife of a Local Government Chairman. It is not that the Local Government Chairman in question is old. He is equally a young man; but why his wife goes about doing what she is doing, is what I cannot understand.
Housewives who are financially buoyant; and who have successful businesses, or head government institutions shock me the most. Do you know that they buy cars, build houses, and even shop lavishly for their usually younger illegal sex partners?
I went to interview a woman the other day in the Federal Secretariat along Abak Road in Uyo; and she tried to seduce me. The way she carried her face, her gestures, her unnecessary smiles, etc. At the end of the day, she asked if I wouldn’t mind paying her regular visits in the office and at home so that she could “relate any available information to me”.
My colleague Nsikak Etuk (and GLOBAL CONCORD’S Features Editor), had a similar, yet more direct encounter. He had been invited for the first time by a married woman and senior government functionary to her office in the State Secretariat. She had been reading his columns and corresponding with him, building in him the trust that she was truly progressive, but inspite of never seeing him physically, she developed an unhealthy interest in him. When she saw him for the first time in her office, her self-composure gave way, as she attempted to seduce him forcefully. It took Nsikak’s moral strength to rebuff her and invent a reason to discontinue with the interview. After his escape, he distanced himself from her by ignoring her calls and text messages. Most married women are indeed a shame to their husbands!
I have come to realize that one of the reasons which drive many women into extramarital affairs is the fact that most men do not have time for their wives; and think that giving them money and whatever they want is the only thing they can do for them. I have also come to realize that many men befriend their businesses and offices, to the detriment of their houses and wives. Some of them are equally guilty of promiscuity as they chase all manner of women. Many women also hold the view that their men cheat on them and so they have a right to also cheat on such men in revenge. That is nonsense! I am not in any way encouraging adultery or sexual promiscuity of any kind, but then the truth is that our society frowns more at promiscuous, loose, and wayward women, than it does men of similar traits. For instance, if a young man befriends all the young girls in the neighborhood, everybody (including the women), will hail him as a strong man (whatever that means); but if a young girl or woman is seen or suspected to befriend more than one boy or man (even if they are not resident within the neighborhood), she will be scorned, despised and christened a ‘prostitute’. So it would be laughable, for any woman to stupidly and shamelessly try to argue revenge or any other reason as a defense for her waywardness.
Our society approves of polygamy and disapproves of polyandry (a situation where a woman marries more than one husband). It could even be said that our society does not recognize the latter. I am therefore of the very strong opinion that Ekpo-Nka-Owo should be reintroduced into our matrimonial homes, because too many women of this day and age have become a disgrace to their husbands, children, families, relatives, friends, acquaintances, and society in general.