Nigerian men marry because they owe women not love – Subomi

Nigerian author and strategist, Subomi has said that most Nigerian men don’t marry out of love, but because they owe women.

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Subomi made this known on her Twitter page, where she listed some reasons Nigerian men get married. See what she wrote below;

Too many Nigerian men marrying women because they owe them (the’ve been together a long time, have had abortions for them, have had kids, have given their virginity etc.), not because they love them.

Too many Nigerian men marrying women because their mamas like them, not because they love them.

Too many Nigerian men marrying women because of social pressure and the fear/drama of confrontation, not because they love them.

Afterwards, they start “checking out” and calling exes, because they are not “happy”.

My friend, will you face your fears and be a man, o jare. Marriage is not a fait accompli. You are not a tree, you can move. Last last, everyone will be alright. 🙄🙄

Another one. Too many Nigerian men marrying other women because the one they really like scares them. They cannot “control” them.

184 Comments

  1. You could be right but my husband is a nigerian and he married me because we love each other. So, I don’t totally agree.

  2. Well, she may be correct. Sometimes experience is the best teacher. But the reason for marriage is for companionship.

  3. There is no doubt people marry for different reasons. I thank God she said some don’t marry for love not all. So that portrays the truth that some still marry for love.

  4. Marriage is not a do or die affair, i see no reason why a man will marry a woman because of circumstance

  5. She is right
    But it’s not good for you to marry for such reason
    Marry because of love
    If you don’t love her, let her go

  6. Where did she get such believes from, i think men marry because it’s time to get married and not because they owe anyone

  7. it seems you are right but it’s not all there are some that marry and spend good time and their marriage is well so not all

  8. You are right dear but if a man impregnated a woman he should marry he isn’t that what he wanted love or no love even when he thinks that the girl stinks but he stinks too.

  9. That is not true, how can she say we marry because we owe them and not love. Every marriage was built on love nothing more…..expect those who jump into marriage because of money

  10. Not all Nigerian men marry because they owe women, most of them marry because they’re madly in love, so I don’t believe that all men marry because they owe women

  11. She is right, this men really owe women slot because of slot of things this women has pass through for them.

  12. I don’t believe that trash cuz myself and my beautiful wife will married for love
    Due the money was not there but we married with joy and we are living happily.

  13. My husband get married to me bcos he feels d love chemistry BTW us is strong Neva d less love alone is not enough is all about if we can endure d task,tolerate eachother, understand our pains n mistake cos we are not God also perseverance,G

  14. OH MY GOD WONDERFUL APEECH I SUPPORT HER 100% SHE IS SO RIGHT AND THATS WHY MOST MARRIAGES DONT WORK RECENT TIMES…THEY HAVE EATEN ALL THE BENEFIT OF THE MARRIAGE ALREADY BEFORE THE MARRIAGE ITSELF HAHAHAH

  15. A God fearing Man married woman with all there heart, don’t think about other thing and when a man married He forget all His else

  16. I don’t believe that, why would you be encouraging separation. I can tell you that most of us married because we love our wife.

  17. I stand to disagree with her opinion. Not all Nigerian men marry for ownership. there are still some who marries for love.

  18. Don’t seek perfection in a man.No one is perfect.If you are responsible and submissive,tour husband will respect and love you.

  19. absolutely true my dear there is lack of true love in our men, that’s the reason of so many divorce

  20. She is so right,they don’t just want to leave them like that after dating them wasting their time.They choose to marry them out of pity.

  21. Why won’t they marry that way since some families calculate the worth of the girl child and we pay for that at the time of marriage

  22. Actually its true but not all Nigerians. Some Ladies too just want to marry cox the guy is good in bed, satisfies them, bring them to orgasm etc. Its both sides

  23. she is entitled to her opinion, she maybe right in a way because women were created for men for many reason by God

  24. Not all some marry because they love the woman so many for the money if the woman is rich if no love why marrying her

  25. There are people who get married not for the women but for the love likewise there are who get married not for love but for their own interests

  26. I thank God she said some don’t marry for love not all. So that portrays the truth that some still

  27. Hmm. Why most ladies marry men coz of how some of them have useless their youth age. They just have to marry men not because they love them but because they have to settle down so as not to be put to shame.

  28. Why most ladies marry men not because of love but because they have useless their youth age and they just had to settle down with a man so as not to be put to shame

  29. You are right in what you are saying but I also know that too many Nigerian men marry women because they love them. But the women don’t love them

  30. Well said,but I still go contrary to what was said earlier,cos love goes ahead of most relationship

  31. These are Indirect campaign to encourage seperations, from time I memorial there has always being one or the other reason for getting married, live will naturally come later.

  32. Quite true; but not applicable to all men. A loveless marriage leads to frustration and that is the reason for so many break ups and divorce. Its high time we correct this trend.

  33. Well i do not really believe in this. Not all Nigerian men marry because they owe some cos of love.

  34. I quite disagree with her, what she suppose to say is few men and not most men, majority of men marry because they love the lady, some don’t even date before they marry, just conduct a search.

  35. Comment*Marriages don’t last anymore….. single mothers everywhere… I pray that God intervene.

  36. I don’t agree with him, because two cannot be together except they agree to love and stay together

  37. I swear men are becoming something else. Some might even marry u for sex and child bearing machine

  38. She is right
    But it’s not good for you to marry for such reason
    Marry because of love
    If you don’t love her, let her go

  39. Be sure that marriage because of pity is never going to last. She may be right in her own view point.

  40. You are absolutely right. Many men don’t marry because they love the woman. Some just marry so that they will help them at home.

  41. I dn’t think she’s right,my husband promised to marry me and he did cos of the love we had for each other

  42. Absolutely right, they say they owe their wife’s body while most of them finds it hard to take care of their wife’s personal needs like buying their undies, cream and supporting them in the household chores

  43. She is absolutely right. In most marriages, women love their husband more than the husband love them and that is the reason why we have divorces these days

  44. People marry for different reasons but I don’t totally agree with your reason when attributed to too many men. Opinion not accepted

  45. i disagree, not all Nigerian men, some marry out of their will. if you are talking about those factors maybe your time and not ours.

  46. Love matters alot I thank God she said some don’t marry for love not all. So that portrays the truth that some still marry for love.

  47. Funny one, though she’s right about those things, most marry not because they love the woman, most did because just marriage sake, most because they wanted to have a child or children.

  48. No love in marriages again because people see marriage a must to achieve that’s y will have so many failed marriages today,men marry because they fill they owe the ladies which is a very wrong reason to get married,pls let’s marry our best friend and also marry for love

  49. To some certain extent she’s right, that’s why many marriage don’t last and divorce seems to be the order of the day

  50. And that’s the simple truth but once they started living and sharing everything together most of them will come to love each other,i believe that love is meant to be built

  51. You are right. Because you will find a guy and a lady that have been in a relationship for like 5,6or7 years lose interest in the relationship,but because the guy fills he has been with that lady for such a long time and is afraid of breaking her heart will end up marrying her knowing he no longer loves her

  52. Marriage is not by force. So I don’t see any reason a man should marry a woman because of circumstances

  53. The woman is right, The same thing applicable to women, cutting for a very long time is not good enough because they might have seen everything finished, there will be no respect again. Just cut for sometimes and get married

  54. It like she as a point some men just marry due to they only want to have a child so maybe he talking in point

  55. She is right, marriage should be of love and happiness with God fearing, let’s not jus jump into getting married because it could crash within the twinkle of an eye

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