Media personality Toke Makinwa has taken to her Instagram page to advise ladies.
According to her, love cannot be forced, and men change for who they want.
She shared the above post and wrote;
“This!!!! I saw this and screamed amen so loud😂😂😂😂 same thing I was telling someone yesterday. It has nothing to do with you, stop blaming yourself for not receiving the kind of love you gave out, sometimes these things don’t work because they just aren’t meant to be and that’s ok. People don’t change for who they want, people change when the time is right and quite frankly growth happens when you let it. That “bastard” is someone’s future husband and guess what? She’s not going to see that side of him. Not excusing bad behavior but as I grow and learn, I realize this thing called love cannot be forced. Love yourself enough to swallow that jagged little pill called truth and walk away with your head high. You’ll meet your own king and you won’t need to beg or force him to treat you right. Ladies this one is for you. #Relationshiptalk #OnBecomingFearless💯 #Loveisagameofwin #evenifyouloseyoustillwin #Takethelesson”
Recall that the 3-year-old marriage between Toke Maje Ayida was dissolved in December, last year.
Makinwa, is the co-host of the ‘Morning Drive’ on Rhythm 93.7FM, a vlogger and an author.
She had on March 9, 2016, asked the court to dissolve the marriage on the grounds that the husband committed adultery.
Justice Morenike Obadina, while delivering judgment held that Ayida filed an answer to the petition but did not give oral evidence in support of it.
She said the position of the law was settled as pleadings did not amount to evidence.
Makinwa had told the court that her husband committed adultery with his mistress, Anita Solomon, adding that the relationship produced a child.
She said since their marriage was contracted, the husband had “behaved in a way she could not reasonably be expected to continue to bear”.
She also said the husband was cruel towards her, adding that their differences became irreconcilable.
In her testimony, she said that after their marriage was contracted in 2014, cohabitation with her husband ceased on Nov. 8, 2015, without any child from the marriage.
She also told the court of an instance where her husband threatened separation and even drafted a separation agreement because she discovered that he bought a ticket for his mistress to travel to London.