Controversial motivational speaker Solomon Buchi has faulted the RCCG General Overseer Pastor Adeboye over his statements that he would never employ a female Personal Assistant and that people would choose to believe a woman accusing a man of rape, whether he is right or wrong
While speaking in a sermons titled ‘Born to be great’, Adeboye on Friday warned Pastors against hiding under the guise of grace to sin.
He was quoted as saying:
“I feel compelled to say some things to those that are young and up and coming ministers.
“What I want to say is from the Bible:
“1. There is nothing hid that shall not come to the open or made manifest. Mark 4:22
“2. Sooner or later, your sins will find you out if you continue in sin under the guise of grace. Numbers 32:23
“3. Abstain from every appearance of evil. 1 Thessalonians 5:22.
“2 Timothy 2:22. When you find yourself facing youthful lust, flee; don’t say you’re highly anointed or something, ask Samson.
“You may say I’m old fashioned, I agree.I’ll never have a private secretary who’s a woman.
“When a woman accuses you of something, nobody will listen to you whether you’re right or wrong; be wise!
“I’m old fashioned, but I’m still surviving since I was ordained; it’s better to be old fashioned & live than modern and die.”
Reacting to Adeboye’s statement, Solomon Buchi mentioned any man, especially men of God should be able to control their urges while with a woman who is not their wife, in closed doors.
Pastor Adeboye of RCCG dropped this writing days ago, and while I agree on him on some, I find these two statements wrong:
1. I’ll never have a private secretary that is a woman.
2. When a woman accuses you of something, nobody will listen whether you’re right or wrong.
These statements make deeper meaning than it just reads. Why will he never employ a female private secretary? Because women are temptations? No, don’t think I am blowing this out of context. That statement enables the parochial inference that “men will always be men” and that women at every point are temptations to men. That statement portray men as inherently unbridled beings, lacking self control. If this isn’t the reason, so why can’t he employ women?
Do we even realize the gravity of what he said? If someone like ‘Daddy GO’ overseeing millions of people with many years of experience cannot employ a female private secretary because he doesn’t trust what might happen, so what should ‘common men’ like us say?
Women have become a victim of men’s lack of control, both in actions and in stereotypes. So there’s a general notion that women are temptations, but in reality this is men’s delusional compensation for their lack of self control. The problem isn’t women, it is men!
If I can’t trust a man with a woman behind close doors, he’s an animal. This creates lack of trust towards men because ‘men cannot be predicted‘. Okay, let’s assume every man in RCCG refuse to work closely with women in their different departments because they don’t want temptation, will Daddy GO agree? Will the ministry move forward?
The message should be men building character and resilience against their unbridled sexual desires, and not men avoiding ‘temptation’ which is women because the day that man who avoids women meets a woman behind closed doors, the beast he’s been hiding will unleash itself. Men should build control! Not avoid women in the name of ‘temptation.’
Lastly, saying that when a woman accuses you, nobody will believe if you’re right or wrong is a very subtle way to invalidate the possibility of women saying the truth about being sexually abused just because they are women…SAD!