Ese Walter is separated from husband

You remember Ese Walter? The lady that was allegedly involved with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA church in a sex scandal. The new gist we have is that Ese Walter is separated from husband Benny Ark, whom she got married to less than a year after the scandal in 2013.

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Ese Walter is separated from husband


In a post she made on her Facebook profile, she wrote of the questions some of her fans asked her via inbox and some wanted to know if she was truly separated from her husband.

She responded in the affirmative and then went ahead to write a note on it.

Read:

Inbox message-

“Ese you look a lot better since the separation…”

At least three people have messaged me with the same content said differently and I thought to respond about that comment.

It is true.

I look a lot better than I did since coming out about the separation.

I think the first reason is because I no longer have to pretend or use silence to keep the truth of the separation.

Another thing is, while married, I felt I had to be certain ways. Sometimes, many times, I compromised even to my own discomfort.

The people pleasing part of me came out fully in marriage. I didn’t trust myself, let alone Boobdaddy. I didn’t know what a family was supposed to be and I had times where I didn’t feel like Boobdaddy and I were family. It was like there is me and this child I birth, then there’s this man responsible for the pregnancy whom is called husband and we are somehow supposed to live in this four cornered space…. forever?

I could never admit that I didn’t get that. And worse, didn’t want it. Why did I feel choked sometimes? Surely I was the only married woman who didn’t want to see her dear husband so much in a week.

I had to pretend and swallow all of these things I considered weird and wrong of me.

Now… I live alone with my compulsory tenants (Boobies. That’s short for Boobbabies

Being in this space where I can be me. Whatever that means to me, and the many changes that will rise, without worrying about pleasing another person outside myself, is very freeing. Selfish too. (I am a selfish woman)

It gets lonely sometimes but at least this lonely makes sense. The type of lonely I used to experience didn’t make sense. How can you feel lonely when you have a live-in partner?

So yes, I do look better and that’s because I FEEL better about Ese. And I no longer have to hide my uncomfortable truths.

It also helps that Boobdaddy and I have been able to build friendship. We used to be good friends before marriage tried to scatter the friendship

We ditched the marriage and kept the friendship. And family

I am happy and content on the inside. This shows on the outside as “looking better.”

Plus, I have activated my vampirism genes. I’m done aging as we know it

Sending love from here

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  1. Come on
    Go back to your marriage and amend it
    It’s your life
    People r out there looking for husband and you are saprating from urs

  2. Hmmm, you are now happy that you are now separated? Then you shouldn’t have make the way like this now. You could have followed other ways. Not by sleeping with another man.

  3. I don’t think you were ready for marriage from the start,this is the reason why marriage is not for children,its not something you just up and leave because of how you feel!come on!that’s just childish

  4. I have seen marriages worst than this,I have seen a woman who feel pains than you did,but they try to keep there marriage and pray

  5. She has moved on and accepted the fate life designed for her….men can’t take half the shit they rub on women’s faces…. Although this is not a justification for your mistakes… I pray life treats you kind.

  6. All these women of nowadays no patience. Your marriage vows says for better for worse, so you used this guy because of your scandal abi? Why did you marry him? What changed? You didn’t think of the past. Well. God help you find what you are looking for

  7. U should knw wen ur ready to say up a home nd wen ur not ifbur not just relax nd stay calm dan separating in not less dat a year

  8. This boys and girls merriage self, when you know you can’t still while getting married, anyway you have just give the devil a go ahead in your home.

  9. People don’t really know the worth if what they have until the loose it, well I don’t really know the main reason she decided to separate but I hope she won’t regret doing this

  10. People no longer see marriage as a sacred union originated from God, they are no longer committed to their mates. They jump into marriage without thinking and leave because of flimsy excuses. Husbands and wives should learn to stick to each other no matter the circumstances or better not go into marriage if you have problems

  11. It is quite a pity that your life turned out this way, but l can see that you do not love him from the on set and the mistake you made is to still go into the relationship. Now that you are free avoid the scandal again

  12. It is better to wait long than marry wrong but whatever d matter, they should ve fixed it.. Oh yes! The wrong man can be d right man if fixed spiritually in prayers…

  13. HEAR YOURSELF.

    READ THOSE THINGS WRITTEN BY YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN TRY TO INTERNALIZE SAME.TRY AND COME TO TERMS WITH THEM.OF COURSE YOU CANNOT.ITS IN THE GENES.
    WHAT A BIG BLUNDER. AND “FRIENDS” COMPLIMENT YOUR GOOD LOOKING AS YOU GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE? DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU REPRESENT – A DIVORCEE? WAIT A MINUTE,WHO ARE THOSE BEATING THIS DRUM OF FRESH AIR FOR YOU?

    I PROPOSE THAT YOU HIDE YOURSELF IN SHAME.BUT I KNOW YOU WILL NOT BECAUSE OF WHOM YOU ARE.

    WHAT WERE YOU EXPECTING IN MARRIAGE? INDEPENDENCE AFTER MARRIAGE? COMPATIBILITY? UNDERSTANDING? CHILDISHNESS? DAILY EAT OUT AT TANTALIZER, GETTING UP AT 9.00 AM? CUDDLING AND FONDLING DAILY?BREAKFAST SERVED BY HUSBAND WHILE ON BED? 24 HOURS OF ELECTRICITY? FALSE EYE LASHES AND CLAWS AS NAIL STICKING OUT YOUR FINGERS RENDERING YOU IMPOTENT IN THE KITCHEN?

    WAKE UP!!!!.

    UNFORTUNATELY, YOU ARE UP AND OUT.

    MARRIAGE IS FOR THE MATURED AND THOSE READY TO MAKE SACRIFICE TO ENSURE SUSTAINABILITY OF THE MARRIAGE. HOWEVER, MARRIAGE IS NOT A PLACE FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.IF YOUR REASONS ARE ASSOCIATED WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ETC, ETC., AND YOU HAVE REALLY BEND BACKWARDS FOR PEACE AND AMICABLE RESOLUTION,THEN YOU ARE RIGHT IN TAKING A WAY TO STAY ALIVE.OTHERWISE,YOU ARE A FAILURE.WINNERS QUIT NOT,AT LEAST NOT AT THE FIRST APPEARANCE OF TROUBLE ON THE HORIZON OF MARRIAGE.

    NO ONE NEEDS TO DIE IN A MARRIAGE,ESPECIALLY ONE FOSTERED IN DAILY VIOLENCE. SHE THAT RUNS TODAY MUST KNOW WHY SHE IS RUNNING,SO THAT YOU CAN LIVE TO FIGHT ANOTHER DAY.

    THE 10 MILLION NAIRA QUESTION HERE IS THIS: HAVE YOU REALLY PUT UP A GOOD FIGHT?SUFFICIENT TO SAVE THE MARRIAGE OR DID TAKE A FLIGHT TO THE HILLS AT THE VERY FIRST OF TROUBLED WATERS.

    MY SISTER,YOUR LIFE IS BEFORE YOU.WHAT IT BECOMES IS ENTIRELY UP TO YOU.

    PEACE.

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