Popular OAP, Toke Makinwa has shared a letter to her 20-year-old self warning her ahead of mistakes she could avoid.
Toke Makinwa stated she felt that she dated too seriously at the age of 20 and if she could talk to her 20-year-old self, she would tell her not to meet people, go on dates, kiss boys without thinking it must lead to marriage.
Speaking in a recent episode of her Toke Moments, a vlog show, she said;
“Dear 20-year -old me, all you wanted to was to grow up, wear makeup, hang out with girls. You wanted to rush life. And then you realize that, as you grow older, you make the dumbest mistakes; look back asking, ‘what was I even thinking!”
“Dear 20-year-old me, don’t date too seriously. Meet people, go on dates, kiss boys. I feel like, when I was 20, I dated too seriously. It was like, ‘this relationship must lead to marriage!’
“I don’t really blame myself. When you look at how we grew up, women were raised to eventually be ‘someone’s wife.’ You never really think that your degree or what you’re doing with life mattered.”
“Some parents even made jokes like, ‘you’ll marry one day and be somebody’s wife. Is that how you’ll be when you’re in your husband’s house?’ Then, you begin to put so much pressure on yourself!”