Sharing her story of postpartum depression, Bolatito Ladoja-Idakula, Nigerian singer Bez’s wife, disclosed that she thought the birth of her son will make her happy, but it never did.
According to Bolatito who lost her daughter a year before welcoming her son, she felt unhappy, like a failure and snapped at her son few times.
Here’s her reaction to writer, Ese Walter-Ark’s post on postpartum depression;
The couple who got married in 2014, lost a baby girl who died 24 hours after she was born on March 2nd 2015, had with Punch last year.
Bolatito’s story is coming after blogger, Emeh Achanga a.k.a Miss Petite also shared her post natal depression story on social media.
The mother of one who confirmed that her 2-year-old marriage has crashed in 2017, gave details of her post partum depression which made her suicidal.
According to her, her spouse who was supposed to be supportive even laughed at her when she told him about her suicidal thoughts.
“Post partum depression is something most Nigerians are oblivious to. It’s sad because about 60 percent of women go through post partum depression and instead of partners to be supportive, most men withdraw, get lovers or side chicks.
I suffered depression because I grew up to be very independent, Didn’t take much time I found myself pregnant. My blog which was my life suddenly became less of a priority.
I could not connect with my readers any more and instead of reaching out. I recoiled into my shell. Watched my rankings slip and then my partner who was supposed to be supportive, didn’t notice I was slipping into depression.
Here I was with a baby who depended on me for everything. And because my work is something I can do from home …my partner was always out at work and I now had to combine motherhood and blogging which is a full time 18 hour job’.
So as my rankings plumetted because I could not keep up, I hated myself, my spouse and everyone. Cut off from family, friends and attempted to kill myself.
And guess what, when I spoke to my spouse about my suicidal thoughts, he laughed. The only thing which kept me going was my daughter. I felt I owed it to her to stay alive.
It is a struggle and everyday is still a battle with depression. Postnatal depression is real and I am going to raise a lot of awareness about it.
Celebrities like Chrissy Teigen recently revealed she suffers from it and takes treatment till date.”