Milena Ciciotti a Christian Vlogger has shared her advice on how to become a “born again virgin ”. Vlogger Milena Ciciotti, from Michigan in the US, shared tips on abstinence after getting married to her teenage sweetheart last summer as a virgin.
Milena, who says she didn’t have sex until marriage, says abstaining is “worth it” – but adds that chastity can be undertaken at any age, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve had sex before.
She says in a video:
“It is never too late to become a born again virgin’.
“It doesn’t matter if you had sex once or 100 times and then you suddenly realise this is not what I want for myself, this is not what God wants for me and I want to make a change.
“There is nothing wrong with that. You are no more or no less of a Christian for previously having sex.
“If you decide to have a change of mind then your sins are forgiven and you can move past that.”
Milena met her husband Jordan when they were both aged 15. She says they both remained virgins until their wedding night.
The blogger, who has nearly 20,000 followers on Instagram, says her video talking about staying a virgin until marriage proved hugely popular and she was inundated with messages from followers asking her how to do the same.
Milena decided then to explain how to become a ‘born again virgin’, and how to avoid temptation and stay true.
To those who have already had sex, she says:
“That is totally fine. We all make mistakes’.
“It will not be easy and you two will have to work at it a little bit harder because that person has already had sex and already knows the feeling, so it is a little bit harder to put the boundary up.
“As long as that person is willing to wait for you specifically than I think that alone should tell you that ok, he or she has already forgiven themselves, I should forgive them too, God has already forgiven them.”
She advises stopping at kissing, and suggests that even lying on the sofa with a partner can bring problems. Steering clear of oral sex is also a must.
“I personally think you should stop at kissing.” Milena says. “Don’t start touching and don’t start licking. Don’t do that because once you do it is so easy to keep going and then boom.”